September 20th, 2021 — 6:23pm

I’m lounging here listening over FaceTime to my mom playing Bach on the piano while Dave bakes a cherry cake *heart eyes*

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September 19th, 2021 — 6:09pm

We got a lot done today. Dave brought the new dining table in from the van, re-assembled it, and put all the cardboard and packaging back in the van to drop off in the recycling bin at his industrial unit. Meanwhile I did laundry and washed up a few dozen glasses and dishes (dusty from being packed away) and found places for them in the cupboards.

Then, since I was quite tired after a rough night (hot/cold/hot/cold, RLS, and up 4 times to pee), we napped and talked all afternoon.

The apartment is almost all set up! Just waiting on delivery of a mattress and the couch and recliners. It’s so peaceful here.

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Happy but tired

September 18th, 2021 — 7:40pm

Busy day! Got my flu shot this morning at a quick and easy drive-through event in my doctor‘s parking lot. Then home to tidy my room and pack my overnight bag in anticipation of spending the night at Dave’s new apartment!

Dave showed up about 11:30 and we took Sal and Em to lunch so Sal could get acquainted with Dave — I am so eager to introduce him to everyone in my family! She loves him of course.

Then we dropped Em at home and took Sal to the airport, then went to Dave‘s favorite furniture store in search of a kitchen table and bedside lamps. Found an attractive small table and chairs that will fit into his little dining nook and a couple of fabulous bedside lamps that have an interesting industrial look with copper-plated shade, USB port, and charging mat for newer phones! I didn’t even know my phone could do that. So cool!

He has a big van but we couldn’t fit everything in, so we took the lamps and chairs home first, then went back for the table.

Both exhausted now, so time for dinner and our first sleepover *heart eyes*

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Busy day

September 17th, 2021 — 8:10pm

Therapy in the morning and a stop at Trader Joe’s. I realized I hadn’t seen my purple cardigan lately and thought about when I last had it… probably last Sunday when Dave and I went to lunch. So I went over to Blue Ginger and there it was, folded nicely and waiting for me. As long as I was there anyway I splurged on lunch to go — mutter paneer, rice, and a naan. So fresh, hot, chewy! Gave half my naan to Em and Sal, ate half my meal for lunch and half for dinner. Yummm….

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September 16th, 2021 — 8:10pm

Lulu needs winter clothes so I ordered some beautiful 95% cotton/ 5% lycra jersey from Four yards royal blue, four yards purple. I usually buy such stuff from but they were out of stock on the colours that Lulu likes.

It arrived today! I’ve washed and dried it and am ready to begin creating beautiful warm outfits for my lovely girl *heart eyes*

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Yay me!

September 15th, 2021 — 9:42pm

Picked Mom up from airport in the morning (full hour of driving) and still had enough energy to do some sewing (shorts for Dave, mending for Mom (yes she flies her mending up to me)) AND watch two eps of Steven Johnson’s excellent documentary, “Extra Life”.

Absolutely astonishing to be able to do so many things in one day. Please give a big hand to the scientists who created treprostinil in time for me to benefit from it.

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Horrible Histories

September 14th, 2021 — 9:52pm

Em and I have discovered the Horrible Histories tv series! Excellent. We have this Shakespeare song firmly lodged in our brains:

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The Cleaner

September 13th, 2021 — 8:31pm

If you get the chance, try the new BBC comedy, The Cleaner, which is written by and starring Greg Davies. It’s not laugh-out-loud funny, but it’s amusing and quirky and warm. Each ep is like a two-character play. Superbly written and acted.

I’ve also been watching The North Water, which is unspeakably grim and hard to watch in every possible way, but beautifully created, great cast, compelling story. Not a jolly show, but a memorable one.

Tired again today. Did nothing. Sigh.

Oh! Today is our three-month anniversary. I love you, Dave *heart eyes*

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Mattar paneer

September 12th, 2021 — 3:45pm

I tried something else at our Indian restaurant today: mattar paneer, which is peas in spicy tomato sauce with chunks of paneer (a cheese with the general look and texture of tofu). SO GOOD.

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Happy Saturday!

September 11th, 2021 — 8:11pm

Slept late, went to Farmers’ Market for tomatoes, discovered they have a system whereby I can use my EBT card (food stamps) to buy fruits and veggies! Nice man in a booth swipes my card for however much I might spend, and gives me fake money to give to the farmers! And they even DOUBLE it (up to $15) so I had him swipe $15 and got $30 farmer bucks! And they don’t expire, and the farmers get the full value. So wonderful!

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And here are my two precious granddaughters having a cuddle. My god have you ever seen anything sweeter?

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Clean air!

September 10th, 2021 — 7:38pm

It rained a tiny bit overnight! When I left the house to run to the store this morning I was shocked to see a blue sky and smell the clean air. It has been so bad for so long.

Went to Sprouts, got green apples, goat cheese, my favorite bread (Dave’s 21 grain), mayo, and Cheddar Bunnies for Em. Got a box for myself, too.

And then I was rather tired so didn’t do much the rest of the day.

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Garden bed

September 9th, 2021 — 4:00pm

My birthday present from Dave arrived today: a beautiful botanical print duvet cover from Pottery Barn for my heavy blanket. With my botanical sheets from LL Bean and my Kara-made flower quilt, my bed is a flower garden. <3

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(I forgot, when ordering, that although my bed is full-size, my heavy blanket is considerably smaller than a full-size duvet; however, three quick seams made everything fit just right. Thank goodness for being crafty)

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Close up of a poppy :)

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September 8th, 2021 — 2:34pm

I sewed up that new pair of comfy shorts for Dave all in one sitting! Just a couple months ago it would have taken at least three days because sitting upright was so tiring. Yay for drugs, yay for science!

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September 7th, 2021 — 8:06pm

Quick trip to the lab for blood draw this morning, and then I cut out another pair of shorts for Dave. Hope to sew them up tomorrow.

I think my new higher dose of Remodulin (actually the generic treprostinil) is helping me to have a bit more energy! It’s exciting to wake up and feel creative and able to do a few things other than lie in bed and play video games.

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Quilt prep

September 6th, 2021 — 7:31pm

I have an unfinished quilt that has been languishing under my bed, unbound and partly quilted. I want a big project to take to Dave’s new place so today I dug it out in order to make and attach the binding. Now all that’s left to do is to finish the binding by hand and get all the big-stitch quilting done. I packed a tiny kit of thread to match the binding, beeswax, needles, thimble, binding clips, thread snips, and perle cotton for quilting. So now I’m set with a nice time-consuming creative project.

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I had a good appetite today so I finished my leftover veggie biryani and also made a super-thick tomato sandwich. Kirsten picked up a few Farmers’ Market tomatoes for me, drool.

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Ate it for dinner while watching the excellent Swedish true-crime “The Hunt for a Killer” on BBC4.

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Blue Ginger

September 5th, 2021 — 8:15pm

We went out for Indian food tonight, at a sweet little restaurant very near my house, Blue Ginger in Hayward CA. I’d never had Indian food before and it did not disappoint! I had veggie biryani and we shared a butter naan. Both were remarkably delicious! The naan had obviously been freshly-baked and it was hot, crisp on the edges, soft but not doughy in the middle. Just insanely good! We’ll be eating there again for sure.

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September 4th, 2021 — 6:37pm

Got nausea? I sure do. Medication side-effect. When Jayla had bad nausea during pregnancy I went looking for something to help her and found I bought some for each of us and WOW they really work! I just got a re-order of three tins of the double-ginger/peach flavor, which is what made me think of blogging them. This flavor is quite intense and gingery, but they have many milder flavors too.

As always, I recommend buying direct from their website rather than supporting the evil amazon empire.

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Eye exam

September 3rd, 2021 — 9:29pm

Eye exam with kindly Dr Siu this morning. No problems, prescription changed a little bit so I ordered new glasses from! I almost chose my same old rhinestone-encrusted cat-eye frames, but then I noticed they had some cat-eyes without the rhinestones so I got those instead. A red pair of progressive bifocals, near distance, for at home:

And a tortoiseshell pair of progressive bifocals, standard distance with those lenses that darken automagically in the sunshine, for driving and out-and-about:

The Zenni factory is quite close to my house, so they’ll probably arrive in about a week. My total for BOTH pairs was $190. You can’t beat that with a stick.

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A Clever Trick!

September 2nd, 2021 — 8:13pm

My beautiful new LL Bean sheet set came with one fitted, one flat, and two pillowcases. I never use a flat sheet, so I converted the flat to a second fitted like this:

I laid the flat sheet on my bed and measured how much extra fabric I’d need to add in order for it to have a good, deep, elasticized tuck-in edge: Six inches, plus a half-inch for seams. I took my old Target fitted sheet (which constantly pops off the corners of my adjustable mattress because the pockets aren’t deep enough) and cut the entire elasticized edge off at 6.5″ from the elastic. This gave me a giant fabric loop with one raw edge and one elasticized edge.

I placed the loop right-sides together with my flat sheet, matching the exact centers of the edges and making sure long sides and short sides were appropriately matched. I pinned everything together well and basted. There is of course a bunch of extra sheet fabric at the corners because a fitted sheet isn’t flat (duh) but that’s fine — just tuck them under when you make your bed. If they bother you, try the sheet on your bed, wrong side up, and pin, seam, and trim away that extra corner fabric. I haven’t bothered yet but I probably will when I take the sheet off to wash it.

Now I have two fitted sheets!

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Thank you, therapists

September 1st, 2021 — 7:53pm

A big thank-you to all of my therapists over the past ten years, but especially Jeff and Suzanne, for helping me heal enough to become attractive to (and attracted by) a wonderfully sane and emotionally intelligent man!

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Not only is he sane, he’s kind and generous and playful and wise and thoughtful and intelligent and clever and creative and loving and so much more. I love you, Dave <3<3<3

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